chinese new year

wow spending most of my time with my mom throughout my holiday...seriously i didn't expect would spend such a great time with her...i think is the best of my life...i want to continue with my previous topic which talk about quality time...according to a research done at America, the most influential people among youth at 1960 is parent, follow by teacher and spiritual leader...however, down to 2000, friends become the most influential people to teenage, follow by media, such as music, movie, and advertisements, and thirdly parent. praise God parent still somehow be in the part of the teenage of America...and unfortunately, spiritual leader drop form 3 to 17 among 20 different people the list...a real big chance after a 40 years and we can hear 'peer pressure' anywhere from teenage but definitely not about their parent or pastor or cell leader...we can state that quality time is one of the many factor that cause this outcome...quality time determined your relationship with one particular person, is common sense that we will only spend our time with the one we think is important to us, time is precious and i believe everyone know that...therefor to maintain a healthy and close relationship with one another, we need time of spending together...same concept apply to family as well...we can see that most of the family issues occur because they lack of time spending, or understanding each other...parent who busy on work or kids that hang out with their peers rather than parent cause this 'misunderstand' between each other...very often we hear people arguing said that "i thought you are like that" or something similar to that...we need time together therefore we have a better understanding with each other, a time of communication...

quality time

i grew up in a broken family.my dad left me, so mom and i stay with grandma, aunt, uncle and cousins over the 12 years, well i think so.we eventually become a family, 13 of us staying together.i really want to thank God for this family that i have because they really taking a very good care to me while i am alone, especially my mom went on with her plan, which to work outside of this country.i can't imagine how would i be if i grew up without them.probably spending most of my time alone at home after school, playing alone or watching cartoon alone.and you know, a child will never learn how to develop themselves when there is no one for them to look up to.they'll not how to distinguish what is right and wrong, so on this will lead them astray.children need quality time with their parent and family members.

a friend of mine, who experience the similar childhood background with me,who parent divorce,mom busy with work therefore seldom spend time with them and attention for her children.during the normal day, his house only left a servant and his brother .he is a very nice guy to be with, funny, easy going, friendly and lot of joy just chit-chat with him.nothing wrong with his personality,instead, he has the potential to become someone that has a really bright future just because of his friendliness and how he related to different kind of people, and people just love hanging with him. however, i made a mistake.i lose the influence in his life. it's already a long time didn't catch up with him, and i learned that he is go through something just because of what he did last time. i felt and sorry and regret until now.he used to be one of my youth member, who really on fire and active for His service.but this did not last long.he used to tell me that he felt that no one care for him at youth, always being alone and no one to talk with.to be frank, i didn't really take his word seriously that time because i think how you can be 'no one care for you' in youth? i mean, not only me but people just love to hang out with you.there are our youth pastor, youth leader, cell leader and other aunts and uncles who really care about you, i thought you are the center of my youth attention.it could be true,or it may be not.he left youth no long after he talked to me, and what i heard and find out from him, he now hanging out with his outside friends who smoke, drink, gangster ism,and few are drop out from school.i am completely lose the influence is his life. i can't give him the attention that he want but his friend could.attention that he fails to seek when he is young while searching for his identity.we try our best to talk with him, but he refuse to walk away from his friends.what can we do after that, only pray for him.

see, family come first is a very common phase in our life, but what if family did not come first like my friend, he don't even have a very good relationship with all his family members, quarrel with his mom, frighting with his brother and a servant, or kakak who don't care about what going on as long as works that can made her get paid.people need belonging, whether it is friends or material stuff when they fail to seek attention, with love, caring, sense of secure that can find in family.human never mean to live alone, this is no God plan for us.He design the concept of family so that we can have someone to depend and rely on.quality time will help them learn that his family members actually care about them and love them.and hat is the point of staying together?

i bet there is non other than spending QUALITY TIME with the one we love.