dilemma

let me share about my life this week. recently i receive a call from a very special one. i never seen this man about 5 to 6 years maybe. he is so special that i really have to think very carefully how to introduce him to others. he is my mom ex-boyfriend, and i used to called him 'lau tao' when i was study at primary school. we were close to each other but something happen, then he left. and i though this was quite funny, imagine now, if anyone ask me who is this man when we having lunch together or something like that. once again. there are certain consequences that will pass down through the previous generation. according to research done in America, teenage who suffer identity crisis are majority from broken family background. famous psychology such as Freud, Jung, Adler state that the first 12 years of our life is the most significant years for human development in personalities, healthy mentality and form attitude toward life. child is like a seed, it looks small and tiny, but no one can deny that the unmeasurable potential in it. here was a question, how can a child, who like a seed, grown in such environment that will make it now produce any good fruits or dead even before it become mature enough to bear fruits?

honor...

my first week back to KL was really a busy week.finish my last paper of mid term yesterday, and next week have quizzes and assignments. it's not yet the time for me to slow down man.
I'm looking for houses this few days and i can tell you is definitely not an easy job.it's got more works need to be done than i ever imagine. how great are those who can stay with their parent and not need to worry all this stuff. anyway, i believe one day all of us will go through this experience. it's just the matter of time.
we need to honor our parent, as well as our sibling and our family members. it's a blessing that we can stay under the same root with our family. thought many people had told me this before, but it's become so real for me when i come to study at KL . I'm not saying that must not move out away from Your parent for the rest of your life, but i encourage that,try all your best to honor them as long as the day when u got up u still see their faces.
why? the first reason will be honor our parent is one of the command from God. for more info please read eph 6:1-4. one of the speaker told me this, "the way you treat your parent it's reflect the love u have for God". I'm agree with this statement, how can you love your invisible parent before u love your parent, and how will you treat Your heavenly father if you don't ever know how to treat your earthly parent? we have no choice, in choosing what kind of parent we want, parent is a gift from God to and we should love everything that God has blessed us with.
secondly, honor them because you will become parent one day. it's true that children learn from their model, include parent, older brother and sister. therefore the way you treat your parent now will reflect later on in Your life how you been treated. its goes like a circle, if you don't break the circle of this bad relationship it will continue on to your next generation. it's your choice to become a breaker or creator of it. my dad left my mom and go with another girl when i was the age of 6. anger and unforgiven spirit fill my childhood year toward this kind of irresponsible father that i had. but after i come to know God, God changed me and He give me wisdom to think which the right thing to do for my father. i can tell you friend it's not easy to forgive and it's take time. all these years i try to reach out to my father side family and pray for a open door for me. it's definitely not easy, imagine they will question your intention of coming back. however friend, i believe the power of will that i choice to become a breaker rather just let there till my nest generation. it's hard to maintain a good relationship, but we strive for it for our next generation and for God's kingdom. therefore, start to honor our family now.