dilemma

let me share about my life this week. recently i receive a call from a very special one. i never seen this man about 5 to 6 years maybe. he is so special that i really have to think very carefully how to introduce him to others. he is my mom ex-boyfriend, and i used to called him 'lau tao' when i was study at primary school. we were close to each other but something happen, then he left. and i though this was quite funny, imagine now, if anyone ask me who is this man when we having lunch together or something like that. once again. there are certain consequences that will pass down through the previous generation. according to research done in America, teenage who suffer identity crisis are majority from broken family background. famous psychology such as Freud, Jung, Adler state that the first 12 years of our life is the most significant years for human development in personalities, healthy mentality and form attitude toward life. child is like a seed, it looks small and tiny, but no one can deny that the unmeasurable potential in it. here was a question, how can a child, who like a seed, grown in such environment that will make it now produce any good fruits or dead even before it become mature enough to bear fruits?